The person writing in is constantly nagging their boyfriend about their drinking.
“I can’t for the life of me figure out why, because I have no intention of going anywhere, and we have the happiest relationship we’ve both ever been in, but he keeps dreaming that the both of us will go out to a party or a bar or something similar, and that I just disappear and abandon him. Or, there have been times where he says I ignored him completely the entire time. Can anyone help me figure out why he’d be dreaming that? I know he has issues with an ex who cheated on him in the past, but I don’t even have a cheating bone in my body, and I don’t really think cheating and abandonment really go together.. if anything wouldn’t he just dream that I actually cheated on him? HELP! Its bugging me that he dreams this… I want to know if its issues with me, or just issues he may have.
Well one of his favorite things to do it shoot pool at our local pool hall/bar. But the dreams are not always a bar. Like last night, he said it was just a big party at a mansion, and that I just took off. Its like he thinks I am going to leave him, but isn’t that way too obvious? It worries me, because he has crazy (and I mean intense) deja vu, that stems from his dreams, and I don’t want him to look at these dreams and take them seriously.”
The dreams appear to reflect his tendency to be self-conscious about what you might think about his drinking or his activities when you aren’t around. There seems to be a common theme where he feels free to enjoy himself, but discovers you’ve left him after he does. It may be that his inner voice or conscience is beginning to remind him about your feelings and how much you disapprove of his drinking.