Question
I am trying to find out why I am NOT dreaming about my mom who passed away. She passed away just about a year ago. She lived with me and we were very close she died of breast cancer and well I wasn’t quite expecting her to go as fast as she did. I was lucky enough to have her home with me and was with her when she took her last breath. Unfortunately for me the month prior I was very stressed and upset with her taking so many pain meds and well have had a lot of regretful memories with my attitude towards her. Although I was able to tell her how much I love her and was able to apologize, she wasn’t very responsive towards the end. I was hoping that I was going to see her in my dreams and that I would at least be able to see her there and talk with her. And well I am not dreaming of her at all and it’s almost disappointing. I want her to come to me in my dreams I almost feel like I can’t get closure because she’s not coming to me there. It’s hard with her gone. Does anyone know what it means to not dream of someone you were so very close to?
Answer
Dreams don’t generally work that way. They mostly reflect what it is you are thinking or offer insight into a problem you’re having. If you aren’t having a real problem confronting her death then it’s less likely she would ever show up in your dreams. If you want to increase the chances of having a dream of her I recommend that you try to except her passing completely and stop focusing on the act of dreaming of her. Simply want what’s best for her.
On top of this you may want to take a few vitamins such as vitamin b5, vitamin b6, or choline to try to enhance the liklihood that you’ll dream at all. It may also increase your dream length and recall which may make it easier for you to remember dreaming of her if you already are and simply can’t remember.
