in a dream usually reflect pleasurable experiences. Sex
in a dream can also reflect your sexual interests.
*Please See Cheating. TOP
To dream of anal sex symbolizes the creation of problems or negative
experiences. Life experiences that totally "screw you over",
and leave you with unresolved problems. It reflects choices
that never lead to anything productive.
Anal sex in a dream is a sign that a situation is being made worse
or that you feel you are getting "the shaft" from someone. Anal
sex may also be a sign that you are giving in to bad habits.
To dream of anal rape symbolizes a sense of powerlessness to stop
a problem from "screwing you over." You may that
problems are being made for you or that they are too big to overcome.
Example: A man dreamed of his father having anal sex with
him. In real life he had a moral dilemma that poor choices
were exacerbating. His father having anal sex with him
reflected a bad conscience making the problem worse.
Example 2: A man dreamed of a demon anally raping another man. In
real life this man was experiencing his business being totally destroyed
and felt powerless to stop it. The demon rape reflected
his perception of horrible and unfair it felt to witness his business
going under. TOP
To dream of having AIDS or sexually transmitted diseases represents
thoughts and feelings associated with choices or mistakes that fill
you with regret, a sense of contamination, ruin, or compromise.
AIDS or STDs can also be symbols associated regrets or concerns over
sexual partners you've had. You may feel dirty, or violated.
Example: A young man had recurring dreams of having AIDS. In
waking life he regretted losing virginity with someone he didn't care
about at all.
Example 2: A man dreamed of seeing someone with AIDS. In
waking life he experiencing total financial loss after not having
listened to advice he was given. TOP
To dream of
a bisexual person may reflect conflict between masculine and feminine
qualities. An aspect of yourself that is both sensitive and insensitive,
passive and assertive, or controlling and compliant. It may reflect
you or someone else that is playing both sides of a situation.
a bisexual in a dream may represent you or someone else that desires
to "have it all." It may also reflect an openness to all
possibilities or choices. You or someone else that likes everything.
If you are straight
and find yourself attracted to a person of the same sex it may simply
reflect how nice something feels or how desireable a situation is.
Ask yourself what one thing stands out the most about the person you
were attracted to and how that quality may apply to your life. TOP
To dream of a cockring represents an area of your life where you are
powerful, effective, or capable and are doing everything you can to
stay that way.
You may have a
skill, trick, or something that gives you leverage and are exploiting
it for it's full potential. TOP
To dream of a condom symbolizes thinking patterns that are counter-productive
to goals, objectives, or attaining what you desire. It can both good
or bad depending on who is having sex in the dream and what qualities
they symbolize in you.
the condom may reflect your attempts to prevent emotional pain.
Negatively, a condom may represent negative thinking patterns that
hold you back.
Since sex in dream
is usually symbolic of merging qualities that create life experiences,
a condom symbolizes something you are thinking or doing that prevents
that from happening. TOP
Doggy Style Sex Position
To dream of doggy style sex represents a person or situation in waking
life that feels good being easy to control. Enjoying noticing someone
in your life letting you boss them around. Liking to feel yourself
having to be in control unquestioned. Enjoying being given total control
or power. Subordination that feels good being easy and automatic. Enjoying
controlling someone because you are more attractive or interesting
then they are.
style sex in a dream may reflect too much enjoyment of controlling
someone else. Exploiting controlling someone's good nature for fun.
Enjoying thinking you are too attractive or important to be questioned.
If you find yourself
having sex with a girl who is bent over in the doggy style position
this may symbolize something you wanted in life being handed to you.
Something you wanted to think, feel, or experience easily happens.
Easy power, control, or gains.
If you find yourself
in the doggy style position, this may represent how you giving someone
else easy power, control, or gains. Letting someone else enjoy themselves
controlling you or getting something they wanted from you easy. It
may also reflect your feelings that someone else is too attractive
to ignore or reject. Enjoying being passive. Negatively, being bent
over the doggy style position may reflect feelings that someone is
too big or powerful to ignore. Humiliation that some else gets to
control you without question.
Example: A man
dreamed of having doggy style sex with a woman he knew. In waking
life he was enjoying himself totally controlling this woman with his
advice. The woman had a huge secret crush on him and was doing almost
everything he asked her to do. TOP
To dream of ejaculation represents the finality of a decision. You
have chosen to do whatever it takes to make a choice, or do something.
To ejaculate during sex represents the finality of a choice that produces
a new life situation, habit, or insight.
To ejaculate without sex represents unproductive choices, or disappointments.
To dream of a person ejaculating on another person represents lingering
failure, unfulfilled promises, or disappointments. One aspect of your
personality created a problem for another one. TOP
To dream of an erection represents you or some aspect of your personality
that is interested in producing certain thoughts, feelings, or waking
Erections may also reflect how powerful or capable you or some aspect
of your personality feels. TOP
To dream of a
handjob represents waking life situations where there is need to please
someone else quickly or cheaply. A reluctant need to make someone
else feel good to keep them happy or keep them supporting you. Pleasing
someone whom is impatiently waiting. A mandatory need to show someone
they matter. Talking about someone in a flattering way so they feel
handjob may reflect feelings of having to serve someone or make them
feel good about themselves when it's inconvenient. Feeling like a
loser that has to tell someone you don't respect that they matter.
Making someone feel good so they will stop complaining. Feeling disgusted
having to please someone. Feeling that you need to do a favor for
someone you consider a lowlife, scumbag, or jerk.
To dream of getting
a handjob represents feelings about being pleased by others with the
intention to get it over with quickly. A quick solution to your complaints.
Feeling good not being ignored. Feeling good being talked about in
a flattering way. Feeling that someone has no choice about needing
to show you that you matter. Feeling that someone is doing you quick
favor in order to get you to shut up.
about getting a handjob may reflect enjoyment of exploiting an opportunity
to tell others what to do. Not trusting someone to respect your feelings
at a later time. Demanding a quick or dirty solution that only feels
good for you. Making someone who doesn't like you talk about you like
they do. Awareness of yourself acting like a scumbag. TOP
Homosexuality / Gay Sex
To dream of gay sex symbolizes a lack of concern about something wrong
that you know you're doing. Something isn't right and are doing it
anyway. Alternatively, it may reflect your enjoyment of something
you know is wrong to do.
To have gay sex
that you don't enjoy may reflect feelings of being coerced into situations
that you know are wrong or dangerous.
To dream of being
raped by a member of the same sex may represent a sense of powerlessness
to control a situation that you know is wrong or dangerous.
a homosexual can be symbolic of your sexual desires if you are gay,
or have homosexual curiosity.
Men with pregnant wives often dream of having homosexual sex. This
may reflect their feelings about how immoral or wrong it feels to
have sex while knowing that a child is alive inside their wives during
Example: A woman
dreamed of seeing lesbians driving a bulldozer on her front lawn.
In waking life this woman had had an abortion. The lesbians reflected
her feelings about enjoying her life without having to raise a child
while also feeling that having an abortion was morally wrong.
*Please See Sex. TOP
To dream of being impotent or sexually incapable represents thoughts
or feelings associated with insecurity and powerlessness in waking
life situations. You may feel unable to control events
in your life, or respond to problems. You are ineffective
in some way. TOP
Incest in dreams can be a difficult symbol to define. The
dreaming mind does not usually discern between what's moral or immoral.
The act of sex itself represents the merging of two personality traits
or qualities. So sex with parents, siblings, or other family
members is most often just a symbol for different personality traits
or qualities merging. The family members are usually like
any other dream symbols...personality traits based on your opinions,
feelings, or memories of them.
If you not aware of the incest as it occurs in the dream, and feel
like there nothing wrong with it , then the incest as a symbol is
probably irrelevant. The sex is the most significant symbol. The
family member is just an emotionally awkward or uncomfortable symbol.
Sex with parents may reflect a positive experience you've had making
To be aware of incest in a dream, to overhear talk of it, or feel
that it is wrong represents taboo, or a lack of acceptance for something.
Alternatively, you may have personal issues with a family member you
need to address.
If you have experienced incest in real life then you may be having
problems dealing with that or are reexamining the past.
Example: A man dreamed of his father slowly pushing his penis
into his bum. In waking life he was conscious of himself
about to make a bad decision that would have consequences. His
father trying to have anal sex with him reflected his conscience or
ability to make a decision that was about to screw him over. TOP
*Please See Cheating.
Lotus Sex Position
To dream of the
lotus sex position represents an enjoyable experience where you like
needing or depending on something.
Example: A young
women dreamed of having sex in the lotus position, being rudely interrupted,
and then talking to the guy on the phone asking him if he wants to
do it again and the phone went silent. In waking life she was losing
her dorm at school. The lotus style sex may have reflected her feelings
about enjoying having a dorm and needing it for school. TOP
To dream of
masturbating represents pleasing yourself mentally or emotionally. Fantasizing,
daydreaming, or pleasant thoughts about desires, wishes, or goals. Things
that may not be realistic at the moment. You or some
aspect of your personality is more focused on enjoying yourself
or being successful than on true achievement or real life experiences.
You may see masturbating
in a dream when you are spending a lot of time daydreaming about enjoying
success, leisure, or using power to attain what you want in life. TOP
To dream of being molested represents feeling or violated in some
way. You may feel humiliated. There may be a person with a domineering
influence over you or that you're having an bitter dispute with. Molestation
may also reflect corruption of innocence or of something good that
Dreams of being
molested may be a symptom of post traumatic stress. If you have been
molested in real life then you need to speak to a professional. TOP
To dream of oral sex represents feelings of total submission. Serving
others or doing whatever someone else wants. Doing all this asked
or required in a way that makes life easier for someone else. Completely
catering to others needs
sex can represent helping other people or a total concern for their
interests. Feeling that someone is making your life a lot easier.
It could also point to enemies becoming completely subordinate to
you. Feelings about life being too easy for you.
sex may reflect caving in completely to fear or giving all your power
away to a subordinate state. Feeling disgusted with yourself for having
let someone feel powerful over you with their arrogant fantasies.
Alternatively, it may also reflect feelings of surprise that someone
would do you a favor. You may not be respecting yourself enough to
believe you deserve something easy happening to you.
To dream of getting
oral sex represents feelings about a person or life situation doing
whatever you want or ask. Experiences where you are feeling good being
helped perfectly. Enjoying favors, gifts, or something free.
To dream of someone
evil or negative getting oral sex represents a negative situation
that is subordinated to. Giving up all power to someone that will
abuse it. Alternatively, it may reflect your own abuse of others good
nature or compliance. Enjoying having a "slave."
To dream of giving
oral sex to an ex-girlfriend or boyfriend you still fantasize about
can represent you empowering your sexual desire for them. A sign that
you need to put more effort into getting over them. Alternatively,
it may reflect subordination in some way.
Example: A man
dreamed of seeing Satan getting oral sex. In waking life he had succumbed
to his drug addiction. He felt powerless to stop himself from giving
in to the "evil" of his addiction that he felt wasted his
Example 2: A woman
dreamed of seeing a small dog giving her oral sex. In waking life
she had gone back to school to train for a new job and found that
school was too easy. She felt like her new education was being given
to her. TOP
To dream of an
orgasm represents you or some aspect of your personality that is satisified
with a choice, or happy with the results of a new life situation. TOP
To dream of an orgy represents aspects of your personality that are
totally focused on sexual desire, or desire for things you want. You
can't stop thinking about what you want or people that you're attracted
Orgies have a tendency to show up in dreams when someone is having
excessive sexual fantasies, and desires. When you see an
orgy in a dream it may be a sign that you need to resist desire for
attractive people and reduce any exposure to pornography.
An orgy could also symbolize a number of different personality traits
or qualities you have merging together into a life experience. TOP
To dream of a pornography video represents a life experience where
you are feeling good doing nothing. Desiring, fantasizing,
or dreaming about having something you want. Goals, wishes,
or aspirations that feel good, but may be out of reach. Pornography
may also reflect delusions or unrealistic fantasies.
Pornography may appear in the dreams of a man who can't tell a woman
he likes her, ex-partners who fantasize about former lovers, someone
planning a vacation, or a business man working on a project he hopes
will be successful.
Negatively, pornography may reflect problems with desiring things
you don't believe you can realistically have. Trusting nice sounding
promises too much. Embarrassing yourself liking something or someone
that never proves itself. It may also reflect intense insecurity or
jealousy of partners cheating on you sexually.
To dream of pornography photos represents memories you have that feel
good to think about.
Pornography can also be a sign of excessive sexual fantasies and daydreaming. You
may be thinking about someone you desire and don't believe you can
To dream of someone you know in pornography may represent you fantasies
about them. Something that is common for ex-lovers.
Example: A man dreamed of watching pornography. In waking
life he was passionately in love with his ex-girlfriend whom he fantasized
about getting back together with when she showed no interest in him.
Example 2: A woman dreamed of seeing pornography on her fiancee's
cellphone. In waking life she had just had a baby and was becoming
jealous and insecure about her fiancee losing interest in her and
starting to cheat on her. TOP
To dream of a porn star that you know represents feeling good wanting
something that never materializes. Ask yourself what feelings or memories
stand out most about that porn star for further symbolism.
An ugly porn
star would possibly represent your feelings of how unpleasant it
feels to wait or doing nothing while being told to feel good about
To dream of
being a porn star represents your interest in making others desire
things that may never happen. You may be lying to someone or trying
to make someone feel good being patient.
Example: A man
dreamed of a porn star named Kira Kener. His most honest feeling about
this porn star was that she was so beautiful he couldn't think of
anything else. In waking life he had a long standing health condition
that finally began to slowly improve. Kira Kener in his dream reflected
how preoccupied he was with how wonderful it was to heal while never
healing completely. TOP
Prostitutes / Prostitution
To dream of a prostitute represents an aspect of your personality
that sells itself out. It may reflect your self-interest before higher
ideals or being more concerned with money than anything else.
dreaming of a prostitute may reflect you or someone else that provides
a service whenever they are asked to. You or someone else that is
easy to use.
prostitute may represent "caving in" or giving up higher
ideals as soon as pressure is felt. Abusing talents, or lowering your
standards, morals, or principles for personal benefit. Getting ahead
or enjoying yourself without any regard for standards or quality.
Men with pregnant
wives commonly dream of having sex with prostitutes. This may reflect
their impersonal feelings about using their wife to have sex when
she too pregnant to be in the mood.
Example: A man
dreamed of a seeing a prostitute walking towards him. In waking life
he spoke a second language fluently and someone who needed his help
kept offering to pay him to do translations. The prostitute reflect
his willingness to do whatever he was asked when paid. TOP
(Girl On Top)
To dream of riding sex represents a positive experience where someone
or something is catering to another. Feeling good noticing
something being done for you.
If you are riding someone it may reflect a positive experience where
you are doing all the work for someone. If you are being
ridden it reflects a positive experience where someone is doing all
the work for you.
Riding sex can point to situations where you like someone so much
that you enjoy doing anything you can for them. Negatively, it
can point to a person in your life that you are allowing to use you.
Example: A young man dreamed of having riding sex with another
male friend where he was the girl. In waking life he enjoying
hiding his friend from the police. TOP
dream about sex represents positive or pleasurable experience that
you are having in waking life. Whomever you have sex with represents
a quality your noticing in yourself or a situation that you are enjoying.
For example, if
you have sex with a celebrity it may symbolize a quality you see in
that celebrity coming out of you or enjoying an activity you associate
with that celebrity.
Whatever the thoughts,
feelings, or memories that stand out the most to you about the person
you have sex with represents what you are experiencing more of in
sex in a dream may reflect your feelings about your partner or someone
To dream of being
unable to find a safe place to have sex may reflect challenges that
stop you from doing what you like or from expressing yourself. Interests
or goals may be sidetracked by complications or conflicting feelings.
Feeling confused as you sort through your options. Alternatively,
it may reflect your inability to be close or intimate in your relationship.
To dream of having
sex interrupted represents outside forces intruding on your private
time, relationship, or ability to enjoy what you are doing. Your career
may be interfering with your love life or a distraction is interfering
with your ability to succeed. An outside element is spoiling your
special moment or time to shine.
To dream of having
sex with a person who has something wrong with them may represent
your enjoyment of being needed. You may also be enjoying the role
of being more desirable, important, or interesting than someone else.
To dream of having
sex with someone in public may represent your private life being made
public or other people speculating about your life. It may also reflect
attention you are attracting yourself with your personal interests
To dream of having
sex with a vanishing partner represents a lack of committment or an
inadequate partnership. Sexual or romantic frustrations. Noticing
your confidence in a person or situation you are enjoying disappearing.
To dream of a
having sex with a faceless person represents a need to learn more
about what really pleases you. Feeling good with something you are
undecided about. Enjoying being single or trying new things. Feeling
free in not knowing what you really want.
To dream of having sex with yourself may reflect your enjoyment of
showing off your skills or experience to others. Having a good time
being the center of attention or showing off. An enjoyable experience
where you feel you are the most important. Negatively, it may be a
sign that you are going too far enjoying showboating or asserting
yourself. Enjoying yourself thinking your more attractive
or better than other people.
To dream of foreplay or sexual activity in a bedroom that never leads
to full sex may reflect waking life situations where you are privately
considering doing something enjoyable while never taking the real
steps to make it happens for real.
To dream of chasing someone to have sex may reflect your feelings
about other people never wanting to have a good time with you. Elderly
people may have this kind of dream.
To dream of people watching you have sex may reflect your feelings
about lacking privacy in your personal life or feelings that people
are judging you on your personal interests. Feelings about a person
or situation making it difficult for you to enjoy yourself. It may
also reflect your conscience weighing on you heavily for something
dangerous you are enjoying.
See the themes
section for sex for a more in-depth look at sex symbolism.
Example: A man
dreamed of having sex with Oprah. In real life this man was a successful
public speaker. Oprah to him represented excellent communication skills.
The sex with Oprah represented how wonderful he felt being so good
at public speaking.
Example 2: A woman
dreamed of having sex with an android. In real life she was having
sex with someone she felt was socially boring and easy to control
Example 3: A man dreamed of having sex with himself and suddenly seeing
himself yelling at himself. In waking life he had embarrassed himself
going too far showing off his skills to customers the point that his
business partner had to lecture him on stopping it.
Example 4: A young woman dreamed of sexual foreplay in bedroom that
never leads to full sex. In waking life she was considering asking
a guy she knew to the prom, but couldn't get the confidence to ask
him for real. TOP
To dream of sperm represents a final choice, or decision. It
can symbolize the motivations or intentions that lead to a final choice.
To have sperm on your face, or see it on the face of someone else
represents the consequences of unproductive or negative choices. Some
aspect of your personality has made an unproductive choice that negatively
effects you or embarasses you. TOP
To dream of spooning represents a positive waking life situation that
give you exactly what you want. A positive experience that
leaves you totally in control, with full access, or always letting
you having your way no matter what.
The person being penetrated represents a personality trait or a person
in your life that is giving you exactly what you want. The
person doing the penetrating represents a personality trait getting
everything they want.
Spooning in a dream reflects positive waking life experiences or relationships
with people that feel good, leave you in control, and make you feel
Example: A man dreamed of spooning a woman he had just met. In
waking life he was sharing his art work with this woman over the Internet
and she always had something good to say about his art no matter what. He
felt like he could never lose or be rejected. TOP
Threesome / Three-Way Sex
To dream of having a threesome represents multiple aspects of your
life that you are coming together for a really enjoyable experience.
Example: A young man dreamed of having three-way sex with a fellow
student and his girlfriend. In waking life he was
enjoying showing off his musical talents to his girlfriend that he
got while practicing with his fellow female student. TOP
To dream of transsexuals, or people with both make and female sexual
organs represents aspects of your personality that share both masculine
and feminine traits. Something powerful and impotent or
beautiful and insensitive.
For example, if a man dreams of a woman he sexually desires having
a penis it may symbolize his desire for that woman being very powerful
over this decisions. Something that may allow that person
in real life to control him.
Transsexuals may also represent your anxieties or uncertainties about
masculine/feminine roles or passive/aggressive behavior. TOP